Books on stillbirth and miscarriage
I just finished reading Cookie Magazine’s article highlighting two books about stillbirth and miscarriage.
The first book is titled An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination by Elizabeth McCracken. I believe this is an autobiographical memoir of her experience with stillbirth. I just ordered it. I’ll let you know what I think.
The other book is an anthology of writings titled About What Was Lost: 20 Writers on Miscarriage, Healing, and Hope by Jessica Berger Gross.
So many women feel isolated in their experiences of losing their child. I believe that reading about the experiences of others gives freedom in your own pain. I’ve had the fortunate blessing of many people knowing about our loss and therefore sharing their stories of loss with me. I’ve been helped by that.
I still remember the first letter I received from another mother who had experienced a late-term stillbirth. I can’t tell you how much it helped me just to hear that this had happened to someone else—that I hadn’t just been stupid or negligent or irresponsible.
Our stories provide solidarity. And most all of the women I’ve come into contact with after losing their children need that.
My favorite line from the article when talking about consolation was this: “What these women consistently yearned for was genuine and brave emotion.”
Our stories—and our genuine and brave emotions in them—console.