A Family Tree for Christmas, Part 3: Including Felicity

December 23, 2009 at 1:03 pm 10 comments

Our Christmas tree decorating process has morphed and evolved over the years. Now it includes shedding tears for our family member who’s not with us, prancing around the Christmas tree and getting into trouble.

Our daughter has been with Jesus for three Christmases now.

Most people who’ve ever lost someone they love will tell you that the holidays are particularly hard. So, for people to have the foresight to give these ornaments to us back in 2007… let’s just say, I’m deeply thankful.

We’ve done it differently every year, but this year, the Felicity ornaments were the last to go on the tree. And since there were three, Abraham, Orison, and I all chose the one we’d like to hang.

I don’t want to make our tree a Felicity tree, I just want her there. These three little ornaments are very special to us.

If you’ve ever wondered what to get for someone who has lost a child, I would highly recommend an ornament. That way, it’s not another item they have to find a place for year-round, but when Christmas comes, there’s a ready-made place for remembering.

Our tree isn’t fancy. It’s not pristine. But it’s ours. It’s our family tree.

Entry filed under: Family, Felicity, Holidays.

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10 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Laura @ Texas in Africa  |  December 23, 2009 at 3:05 pm

    This is so beautiful. Thank-you for sharing your life here, and for the wonderful suggestion on a concrete way to help our friends who grieve.

  • 2. Kelly @ Love Well  |  December 23, 2009 at 3:26 pm

    A family tree indeed. This is beautiful, Molly. Merry Christmas!

  • 3. Rhonda  |  December 23, 2009 at 3:36 pm

    How beautiful, Molly. Also, thanks for the advice on gifts.

  • 4. pendy  |  December 23, 2009 at 5:02 pm

    What a wonderful idea. Our tree is a family tree, too, and the ornaments mean so much to us. Just because a member of the family isn’t physically with you doesn’t mean they aren’t there. Thank you for sharing this.

  • 5. Christine  |  December 23, 2009 at 5:33 pm

    I get a special ornament each year for Micah. I also have recommended that the parents pick out an ornament themselves. Praying for you and all of us who have someone missing.

    Merry Christmas

  • 6. Amanda  |  December 24, 2009 at 12:46 am

    I could not have said it better. The ornaments that we have that are especially for Gavin are so meaningful. I always want him to be a part of our family tradition as we decorate our tree. The ache at this time of year is sometimes unbearable. Thank you for always helping remind me that I am not alone in my grief. Merry Christmas to you and your sweet family.


    Forever missing Gavin 4/7-5/3/08

  • 7. Marla Taviano  |  December 24, 2009 at 10:07 am

    My friends Amy and Billy lost their baby Abigail on March 6. They knew she wouldn’t live outside the womb (found out at 20 weeks), and she stayed alive until week 36 and Amy delivered her sweet little body. I was so honored to meet her an hour after she was born.

    I gave Amy an ornament with a Scrabble letter A on it at church a couple weeks ago. I didn’t even realize it was December 6. Abigail would’ve been 9 months old. I can’t imagine a Christmas without one of my babies.

    You’ve got to watch this video of their story. So, so incredible. http://bit.ly/62JNJg

    I love you, Molly! I’m praying for you and Abraham this Christmas!

  • 8. Elizabeth Esther  |  December 25, 2009 at 9:12 pm

    I think the family trees are the prettiest trees.

    On a similar note, I love using my deceased Grandmother’s dishes on Christmas. They don’t match anything. But I don’t care. I couldn’t imagine Christmas without the mismatchy dishes–and the memories.

    The Felicity ornaments will be cherished for years to come.

    xoxo and Merry Christmas!

  • 9. ebe  |  December 28, 2009 at 10:08 am

    I love her ornaments. We get one every year in memory of Owen. They are special and important to us.
    Your family tree is wonderful.


  • 10. Bethany  |  December 29, 2009 at 8:06 pm

    That’s very sweet:) You must be a very good momma.


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